How to Save Your Marriage Today – Expert Tips and Advice…
Do you want to save your marriage? Are you seeking out advice & tips in order to do so? Are you at the point of no return about to lose all hope that there is any chance to salvage all you’ve worked for?
I have been at the point you may be right now. Down, close to hopeless, been fighting to salvage things for so long that you are ready to give up.
Listen you can still save your marriage today. As we always indicate it will take some work, some effort, some potential changes, but if saving your marriage is what you truly want, then it can happen.
We are going to share tips to save your marriage. What you do with them after that is up to you.
Top Tips for Helping You Save Your Marriage Now…
First, Get professional help. With that said you can’t just rely on them to make your marriage work.
They can help you identify problems, set up channels of communication, root you on, and get you on the right track before divorce is the only option. However, you have to meet them half way and follow through with their suggestions. If you don’t like their advice, get a different opinion.
If you don’t want to end in divorce here is what some experts recommend and what I can recommend based on experience…
-Have a goal as a couple. Get out of your head on how things are, should be, etc. Marriage takes some compromise and working together. You have to come together and set some goals on how you both see your marriage being.
-Take a look at your story. What is your story of marriage? What is your spouses? Do they differ? What about values, rules, and other important aspects one holds near and dear to their heart? Example. Do you value personal space? Do you like to do things on your own sometimes? On the other hand you wife values quality time together and doesn’t understand why you would want personal time. This causes major strife, fights, and leads to the comment, we just don’t understand each other. First understanding your stories and perhaps making changes can really make a huge difference.
-Are you willing to put fear, ego, pride, and other strong signals/feelings aside to look and dive deep into your relationship? There will be obstacles, negativity, situations of looking in the mirror and being honest with yourself. Are you able to handle that? Many people can’t do that and would rather just call it quits than face the fact that they have problems and flaws. Listen if you don’t face them now you will take your issues to someone else and end up having problems with that relationship as well.
-You are going to have to put in motivation, action, work, thought, and more to make your relationship work. Things got to this point over time and it will take time to get it back. But baby steps and taking action each day towards your goals will create momentum. With momentum and action you’ll get positive reactions and excitement. It builds and builds until you reach new highs and realize that things are starting to click. The early phases are the hardest because you tend to be out of your comfort zones.
-Invest in your relationship. Money may be tight but find a way (humans have a way to figure it out when they want it bad enough). Get professional help. Set money aside for date nights, little gifts, or other things that would help. Think back to when you first met the other person. We all do it especially as men. We will spend money we know we don’t have or get as creative as we can to win that woman over. It is time to get back to those fundamentals and do so again. You don’t have to go broke, but have to invest in your relationship if you wish to save it.
-Personal recommendation – learn your spouses love language. If you don’t know that that means, then check into the book the 5 Love Languages. One of the best, yet simple books to read on how to pinpoint where issues lie and how to understand your mate. From there you will want to get additional assistance or learn more, but it is a great start. It will enable you to open the lines love toward your spouse by communicating (verbal and non) in the ways they understand.
To Reiterate How to Save Your Marriage Now…
These tips are not new. They come from years of expert advice, reading, learning, taking action and more. Relationships take work. They are one part of the life – fulfillment process and that means they are an ongoing experience that we must continue to understand, learn from, make mistakes, grow, take action towards goals, and more.
There are all sorts of tips and recommendations out there. They all tend to lead down the same path – work hard, open up, communicate, learn, grow, and realize that your marriage is a journey of discovery. It is one that will take time to heal if it has gotten this far. It is something that will end up being unique for you and your spouse.
But the ride back to a healthy marriage could be an amazing one and you may be surprised at what you discover in the process. I guarantee if you have the gulls to work at this you will find out one of two things. Either you aren’t meant to be together and you can look back and say you gave it everything you had. Or, you rediscover the person you fell in love with in the first place and reach deeper levels than ever before solidifying the marriage forever.